There are lessons in life that seem to come back over and over again. Not sure if that means, by definition, that I didn’t get it the first time and the universe is patiently and stubbornly committed that I do… Or if it’s simply that all things of substance have layer upon layer of truth to them, and that I simply could not learn anything that was beyond where I was at the time.
Being an irritatingly impatient person by nature, has had me wanting to know it all already, of course. Actually, one of the biggest lessons of all has been to constantly stand firmly planted in the beginners mind – and be happy there!
This morning, having my morning coffee over some emails and CNN news (the only channel my brain can take after a week of nonstop German!!), I saw an interview with this guy who works for LiveStrong, Lance Armstrong’s foundation for cancer awareness, prevention, etc.
This guy has had cancer three times in his 32 year life, and said some remarkable things. When he was nineteen and was diagnosed the first time, his soccer coach immediately asked when he was going to play again. And then proceeded to make him come and sit on the sidelines in uniform every practice, until his doctors said he could get on the bike, or the treadmill, or start kicking a ball around. He said his coach taught him the techniques to focus on something other than cancer. To make life about achieving something else, separate from cancer.
He now is a survivor, but also a marathon runner (who wasn’t ??supposed?? to be able to ever walk again), and continues to train others in the conversation of life, not cancer!
It is a matter of perception and focus, isn’t it? And it brings to mind the saying ??being part of the solution, not the problem??, and it also calls to mind the teachings of Abraham-Hicks on the Law of Attraction: That which you focus upon is what you’ll get more of, whether you want it or not…
Our problem, as individuals, or as a species for that matter, is not that we don’t have powerful minds that can create realities beyond our wildest dreams…. The problem is that we fill our minds with garbage! And even to the extent that we have defined what we would like, we are too undisciplined to stay with that thought.
Discipline is not about taking things at face value, being realistic, grabbing the bull by the horns, biting the bullet, or PUSHING through… None of these things are very inspiring, life affirming, or for that matter very smart. (Have you ever seen a bull up close and personal?)
Rather, it is about being visionary! It is about seeing beyond what others say reality is. It is about being filled up with the possibility of the unseen, the unproven, and the unlikely! It is about setting goals that have no foundation in the past, committing to a schedule of action, and then sticking to it – no matter what!
Even when solving a ??real?? problem, the people who get things done are the ones who are excited about the result they are actually, in reality, working towards – They are not the ones sitting at home getting an ulcer from watching the news. If you’re going to get an ulcer, do it while solving some problem, right?!
Solving problems requires looking at where we are, sure. But then one has to set ones’ sights on what one wants.
And that definitely requires taking our attention OFF of the things we don’t want. We have to stop leaking and wasting our energy, intentions, dreams and waking hours on that which leads us where we don’t want to go – or above all, that which makes us fundamentally unhappy in the thinking of it…
I once had a director who was really bad. And by bad I mean, couldn’t get the job done and made everyone miserable, including themselves. The fatal flaw was not a lack of vision or inspiration, or even technique; it was a complete inability to rule out alternatives, even if they were bad. There was a sentimental and habitual attachment to arguments, problems, intrigue, and suffering. It made for an undefined mess of ideas, none of which was developed to it’s full potential, while the whole cast and everybody around couldn’t wait for the show to be over so we could get out from underneath the depressing cloud of clingy garbage.
That’s no way to live!!
It is a challenge, but I really believe it is worth it to reach for, and expect, something so fabulously inspiring to come to fruition, that all other alternatives cease to attract our attention!
I am noticing that it takes relentless training in the art of focus of attention.
I am grateful for the people in my life who keep pulling my focus back to the things that most float my boat. The people who don’t let me wallow or suffer complaints for too long. And who always remind me that I was the one who said life could be wonderful…